It just becomes a nightmare when they settle too quick with the Chicago Cubs stand for the flag kneel for the cross shirt it is in the first place but wrong man because “time” is running out and they MUST get it done! This is where my view of love has faltered since I was younger. I hate watching couple after couple rush and settle for a dream they think is the only option. It’s not so scary knowing who you are as a result of being alone longer. I would even go so far as to say it is empowering and would encourage taking your time to get to know you before you commit your life to someone. Then and only then can you guarantee that you are bringing your best to the table and if you do that and you are lucky enough to have a partner who knows themselves. I’ve been in love with one of my closest friends for a while now, its weird because the feeling comes and goes, I think it has to do with the fact that we live in different countries (I live in france, she lives in the US) and second and most importantly that im gay and even though shes not 100% straight she does lean more towards being with men to the point that i dont think she would ever consider having a real true relationship with a girl. Some people like to reduce the love a survivor of narcissistic abuse feels for the narc as nothing more than a trauma bond. I get that. Trauma bonds are real and do make a huge impact on the survivor’s ability to make assessments and trust their perceptions that accurately depict the situation in which they find themselves. Trauma bonds keep us locked in when the love we have for them is so damaged that we would leave. Trauma bonds create chaos in your head, a fight between comfort and truth, a struggle between hope and familiarity, a fight within ourselves which pits our own minds against our needs. In order to break it, you have to give up everything you fought, sacrificed, and held dear to your heart. You must give up.
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Love, on the Chicago Cubs stand for the flag kneel for the cross shirt it is in the first place but other hand is devotion to a person, a commitment to act in ways that are for the best of the other person, an inexplicable drive to comfort, protect, and serve another, to tend to another person in order to nurture them and their growth. Love is what makes you see the very best in someone, even when it is a tiny percentage of that person.I love my narc still, regardless of his abuse and betrayal. It’s not a trauma bond, because when I got him out of the house, I wasn’t lost. Not this time. I didn’t wander around not knowing who I was without him, nor was I tempted to let him return. That doesn’t mean I’m not sad about him. I’m sad for him. He had it all. Not to sound arrogant, but he had a wife and kids that everybody envied. He had love and a real home, with comfort, care and support. But he couldn’t help himself. He had to fuck around with other women. He had to sabotage himself. He had to betray those that loved him in favor of a little novelty. That’s sad. When I don’t hate him, I feel so sorry for him that I cry. Lastly, when I’ve had to take him to court and take action to protect myself, I felt like shit. I didn’t want to sit in court and tell what he’s done. I hated it. And I’m not done having that responsibility. It was a terrible choice to hurt him to save myself. But the part of him that I love is not in control. I can’t live with that. I feel like I’m abandoning him. Before I got wise, I thought I could keep the good side out, keep him free from his own demon. But I couldn’t. So I had to leave him to the demon. I now know that the demon is who we deal with, the one in control. They chose that!